I like to play survival and / or plots. No PvP. I hardly find servers, and what I find is either mass processing or one is not even welcomed. I miss the days when there were still decent 40/50 slots servers, where everyone was looking forward to every player and then they liked to stay. I'm looking for a server like this. But not for the Java version, since I play once with Windows and once with Android.
And now please do not come with "Kiddi" or anything like that, just because it does not have as much power as other current games.
Play the Java version.
https://bedrock.minecraft-server.eu
No, because I can play with my mobile phone and PC and that's nice.
There are, for example:
https://multilabs.net/
or
https://entengames.de/