I have a crush on a boy. We're both still 12. Ever since I've known him, I've had the feeling that he somehow doesn't like me or something… He always plays Minecraft with my little brother and doesn't even greet me when I'm visiting him. When I talk to him he is normally really nice but even when we're in a room he pretends I'm not there so he doesn't talk to me. But he looks at me sometimes. Does that mean he hates me now?
Maybe he's just too shy.
Ne he talks a lot with the others and is self-confident
Maybe he's shy.
Ne talks a lot with the boys and is self-confident
You don't have to label every negative reaction as hatred.
They may just not be interested in you and not want to send out signals that you could misinterpret - or - they are shy.
You can only find out if you don't just ask people on the Internet, but communicate with them and, if necessary, even speak to them specifically.
But i'm shy
At 12, as a boy, he may still be in a "children's world" where you have long since arrived in a teenage world…
At your age, there can be huge differences in both physical and psychological development between boys and girls that can't be easily overcome…
means that he may not even know the feeling of having a crush and feeling something for someone else… And that therefore at the moment he simply can't (yet) do anything with your feelings and may not be able to deal with them appropriately
Yes and? He may be shy too. If you want to achieve something, you have to jump over your shadow.
But he looks like 14
OK
That may be true, but don't say anything at first…
OK. But what if he has a crush on someone else? OMG I could never take that
No, he does sense your presence so he's just shy.
I also find social customs sometimes difficult, such as saying "Hello" and "Goodbye" on the cell phone. I just don't think about it and prefer to get straight to the point.
Although this is not meant in a bad way, and I'm usually a nice guy, the callers notice it immediately, and sometimes tell me that you shouldn't make a phone call like that.
Well, even if: you won't be able to buy it, force it or do anything… That would only have the opposite effect of what you want to achieve; and if you are "pushy", pushy or whatever, it will definitely not work, but then you annoy him and screw it up for the next few years…
If you want this boy to be interested in you at some point - when he too has reached this phase of life (which may still take years) and that you gradually become more and more worthy to him, then you should make sure of that that you are interesting, attractive and enriching for him…
And by interesting and attractive, I don't mean make-up tips, provocative clothing or sham packaging for your figure. What good is the most beautiful, sexy and made-up girl (or adult woman) if she is a ***** (insert word of your choice) from her personality and character? => Completely unattractive…
Rather, you will be interesting and attractive in addition to a well-groomed, but "honest" and natural appearance (by no means exaggerate in terms of appearance, just be elegant, natural and well-groomed) through a mature, level-headed and sensible personality (you should then look at it further be than others your age…) and a good, honest and sincere character, paired with characteristics such as attentive, friendly, understanding, polite, helpful, self-confident and at the same time humble and humanly intelligent…
If you then - completely unobtrusively (!) - show genuine interest in him as a person and in his "world", in his hobbies, in what is important to him, etc., can listen to him; Have serenity, patience and a positive attitude towards yourself, towards yourself and towards life; and if you are always completely relaxed and patient in dealing with him, then he might well develop an interest in you… But as I said, that can take a long time without any visible success. If you are interested, you have to keep it up without even blinking an eyelid once or showing anything… Even if he continues to play Minecraft first and your little brother comes along.
What is more, there are the "non-verbal" possibilities of communication. Keep eye contact, smile, always be "present" physically, mentally and emotionally when you deal with him. Despite the use of a protective face mask at school, your eyes can "smile" too; You know how meaningful looks can be. And there's hardly anything more beautiful than eyes that look at someone appreciatively and are full of joy and express that. But all of this is always completely unobtrusive… (!). Always give him his freedom and show him your respect and understanding.
What is most important here: That you still appreciate the other person even if you do not understand him or you would have wanted him to make a different decision and that he does not lose any attention, respect or value. But unfortunately neither parents nor partners in a relationship can manage that with their children, even if it has been around for years…
In any case, I wish you a lot of patience, good nerves and a lot of success…
Thank you
But he is fully confident and says that to my brother
Pleased to:-)
That's why it doesn't have to be the truth for a long time:
Many confident people are not confident of everyone.
